1. Pretend you are your own best friend<\/strong>
Simply start to notice what you\u2019re saying to yourself. You may be taken aback by how often you\u2019re saying unkind things to yourself (I know I was), but know that it\u2019s totally normal and part of the process. Allow yourself to observe the thoughts that come up and not judge yourself for having them.
When you notice that you\u2019re in this unkind space, ask yourself, \u201cIf this were a friend coming to me with these thoughts, my thoughts, what would I say to them?\u201d
This question would always wake me up and radically change my self-talk. I could see how mean I was being to myself. I wouldn\u2019t speak to any other human being like I spoke to myself, let alone a friend. You may find this is the same for you.
If this is difficult for you, it may be because you don\u2019t think you deserve this level of kindness. First of all, you do. Second of all, you can combat this by choosing to focus on one thing you appreciate about yourself that day. Perhaps you appreciate that you decided to go on a walk even though you didn\u2019t want to, or you were kind to your coworker, even though she was being unkind.
Reflecting and recalling things you appreciate about yourself isn\u2019t always easy, but the more you practice it, the easier it becomes. And it\u2019s in this space you\u2019ll begin to see you deserve to be spoken to kindly, just like you would speak to a friend.
<\/td><\/td> | <\/td> | 1. Imagina que eres tu mejor amig<\/strong>a
Comienza por darte cuenta de lo que te dices a ti misma. Quiz\u00e1 te sorprenda con qu\u00e9 frecuencia te dices cosas desagradables (como me ocurr\u00eda a m\u00ed). Esto es totalmente normal, y forma parte del proceso. Perm\u00edtete observar los pensamientos que te surgen, y no te juzgues por tenerlos.
Cuando notes que est\u00e1s en este espacio poco amable, preg\u00fantate: “Si un amigo viniera a m\u00ed con estos pensamientos que estoy teniendo, \u00bfqu\u00e9 le dir\u00eda?”.
Esta pregunta siempre me hac\u00eda despertar, y cambiaba radicalmente mi autoconversaci\u00f3n. Entonces pod\u00eda ver lo mala que estaba siendo conmigo misma. Yo nunca hablar\u00eda con ning\u00fan otro ser humano como me hablaba a m\u00ed misma, y mucho menos si fuese una amiga. Y tal vez a ti te ocurra lo mismo.
Si esto te resulta dif\u00edcil, quiz\u00e1 sea porque crees que no mereces esa clase de amabilidad. En primer lugar, s\u00ed que la mereces. Y, en segundo lugar, puedes combatir este problema centr\u00e1ndote en cualquier cosa que valores de ti misma en ese d\u00eda. Quiz\u00e1 valores que te animaste a salir a pasear aunque no quer\u00edas hacerlo, o que fuiste amable con tu compa\u00f1era de trabajo pese a que ella no lo estaba siendo.
Reflexionar y recordar las cosas que aprecias de ti misma no siempre es f\u00e1cil, pero te ir\u00e1 resultando m\u00e1s sencillo cuanto m\u00e1s lo practiques. Y es en este espacio donde empezar\u00e1s a ver que mereces que te traten con amabilidad, igual que tratar\u00edas a una amiga.<\/td><\/tr>
2. Surround yourself with people who bring you up<\/strong>
I was notorious for saying yes when I really wanted to say no. Again, it all boiled down to not valuing my wants, my needs, or myself. The first time I said no (with grace), I was petrified. I was worried the other person would hate me.
Funny thing is, they didn\u2019t hate me. They began to respect me more. And the more and more I declined outings, events, dates, work, and time with people who brought me down, the more I made room for the things in my life that made me shine, feel happy, and feel whole.
By feeling this way, I began to really fall in love with myself and appreciate the power I had to make myself feel grounded. I began to feel enough.
And it was during this time that I joined a local yoga studio, signed up for meditation classes, and started regularly hiking. Through these activities, not only did I find self-worth, and myself, but I also began to grow a beautiful support network of likeminded individuals who would eventually become friends.
You can do this too. Find and\/or make time for activities that bring you joy, and know that a simple hello and a smile can go a long way.<\/td><\/td> | <\/td> | 2. Rod\u00e9ate de personas que te animen<\/strong>
Yo ten\u00eda fama de decir que s\u00ed, cuando en realidad quer\u00eda decir que no. De nuevo, todo se reduc\u00eda a que no valoraba mis deseos, mis necesidades o a m\u00ed misma. La primera vez que dije que no (con gracia), me qued\u00e9 petrificada. No quer\u00eda que la otra persona me odiara.
Lo curioso es que no lo hizo. La gente empez\u00f3 a respetarme m\u00e1s. Y, cuanto m\u00e1s declinaba las salidas, los eventos, las citas, el trabajo y el tiempo con personas que me deprim\u00edan, m\u00e1s espacio quedaba para las cosas de mi vida que me hac\u00edan brillar, estar feliz y sentirme plena.
Al sentirme as\u00ed, empec\u00e9 a enamorarme realmente de m\u00ed misma y a apreciar el poder que ten\u00eda para sentirme con los pies en la tierra. Empec\u00e9 a sentir que yo era suficiente.
Fue durante este tiempo cuando me un\u00ed a un estudio local de yoga, me apunt\u00e9 a clases de meditaci\u00f3n, y comenc\u00e9 a hacer senderismo de forma habitual. Con estas actividades no solo encontr\u00e9 la autoestima y a m\u00ed misma, sino que tambi\u00e9n fui construyendo una hermosa red de apoyo de personas afines que, con el tiempo, pasaron a ser amistades.
T\u00fa tambi\u00e9n puedes hacerlo. Busca tiempo para dedicarlo actividades que te aporten alegr\u00eda, y ten presente que un simple saludo y una sonrisa son capaces de mucho.<\/td><\/tr>3. Ask close friends or family members what they appreciate about you<\/strong>
Sometimes (or a lot of the time) a kind word from someone we love and trust can go a long way. Their perspective can also help shed some light on qualities about ourselves we previously dismissed.
And when you have these words in writing, you can pull then out and reread them whenever you feel down.
The email I sent, and that you can send too, went something like this: \u201cAs one of the key people in my soul circle, would you mind telling me what you appreciate about me? I\u2019d be so appreciative!\u201d
Try it. Save their words. And reread them when you need them.<\/td><\/td> | <\/td> | 3.<\/strong> Pregunta a tus amistades cercanas o a tus familiares qu\u00e9 es lo que valoran de ti<\/strong>
A veces (o muchas veces), una palabra amable de alguien a quien queremos y en quien confiamos puede sernos de gran ayuda. Su perspectiva tambi\u00e9n puede ayudarnos a apreciar mejor algunas de nuestras cualidades, que tal vez nos estaban pasando desapercibidas.
Cuando tienes esas palabras por escrito, puedes acudir a ellas y volver a leerlas siempre que te sientas mal.
El correo electr\u00f3nico que les envi\u00e9, y que t\u00fa tambi\u00e9n puedes enviar, dec\u00eda algo as\u00ed: “Como una de las personas clave de mi c\u00edrculo del alma, \u00bfpodr\u00edas decirme qu\u00e9 es lo que valoras de m\u00ed? Te lo agradecer\u00eda mucho”.
Pru\u00e9balo. Atesora sus palabras. Y vuelve a leerlas siempre que las necesites.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"How to Boost Your Self-Worth: 7 Tips to Feel Better About Yourself C\u00f3mo mejorar tu autoestima: 7 consejos para sentirte mejor contigo misma Excerpted from Tinybuddha.com. 1. Pretend you are your own best friendSimply start to notice what you\u2019re saying to yourself. You may be taken aback by how often you\u2019re saying unkind things to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":433,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/edcv-translation.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/434"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/edcv-translation.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/edcv-translation.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edcv-translation.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edcv-translation.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=434"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/edcv-translation.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/434\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":474,"href":"https:\/\/edcv-translation.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/434\/revisions\/474"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edcv-translation.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/433"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/edcv-translation.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=434"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edcv-translation.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=434"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/edcv-translation.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=434"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}} | | | | | |